How to Love Yourself Better!

It seems that some people are simply born confident. They never let anyone ruffle their feathers, they hold their heads high and march through life with purpose. But rest assured, absolutely no one was born perfect, not even Jesus! That sort of confidence is learned and practiced, so for all you wallflowers, there's hope for you yet! You don't have to become a police officer to come out of your shell, and claim your self-confidence, there are plenty of other ways to feel like the master of your own domain, and none of them involve joining the military or taking up some masculinized hobby.

Get Movin'! Join a gym and actually go. Or join a running club or ski club. Make getting in shape an absolute priority, and as you start to see results, you'll start to see a significant change in the way you look at yourself in the mirror. If public exercise isn't your bag, try an intense at-home program like P90X, where you can work out in the comfort and security of your livingroom. You can join online community if you wish, and share your results. After 90 days, you can emerge from your cave looking smoking hot! 

Show off your strut! Whether you're a guy or gal, when you walk tall, you feel tall. My father was in the military, and he always use to tell me, "stand tall, shoulders up-back-and-down". And it worked. If you repeat that mantra in your head over and over again, you'll be less likely to slouch. Slouching is for slackers, so chin up, you are in control of your life!


Giving the best brings out the best! This may sound strange, but paying others compliments makes us feel better about ourselves. By acknowledging the best in others, we bring out the best in ourselves.

Eliminate negativity from your life. Do a social media cleanse, clear out your phone and email contacts, it's time for a clean slate. Life is already full of downers, why on earth do you need list after list of negative acquaintances? It's better to have 10 positive friends, than 336 negative ones. Avoid gossip, and refuse to participate in knit-picky politics (especially in the workplace!). People respect and gravitate towards people who maintain their integrity, so be the exception, and not the rule.

Be a little less selfish! This may sound a little contradictory when you're trying to gain more self-confidence, but it's necessary. We tend to get all wrapped up in ourselves, what we want, and how we're going to get it, and then we stress ourselves out, and a get bogged down when we don't achieve our goals. Spend more time time focussing on the needs of others, and you'll spend less time focussing on your flaws. Think about how you can make the world a better place, and when you make a difference in other people's lives, the self confidence will flow!